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 Mr Duyvken and I received this card in the post on Monday. It is a very sweet card announcing a wedding. The only problem is that I am not sure how to respond, or even if I should respond.
It isn't an invitation and it isn't a save the date card, it seems to be just an fyi card. Is this an american practice? I think we'll put a card in the mail and hope that it's the right thing to do. Any other suggestions, dear Reader?
Zen pigeon is perplexed.


blackbird said…
Are you sure it isn't an invitation?
Anyway, my boss sent me an announcement of his daughter's college graduation.
Not an invitation. An announcement.
I think it means I'm obligated to send a gift.
I'm not happy.
Duyvken said…
No, not an invitation, it says that they are pleased to announce their marriage, gives the date (which is 1 month away) but no other details. Are we supposed to send a gift? I am so confused! :-)
Lynn said…
That's a new one to this particular American!
Michelle said…
It's american in that it's a gift grab. And it's american in that it's tacky before the wedding. "hey, we're getting married, send us a gift, but you're not invited"

I'd do whatever you want - send a card or gift, but don't feel obligated to do either.

I haven't yet received an announcement of a wedding before the wedding, but I've received a few afterwards, which I also find gift grabby, but it's got some social precedence at least.

Also have received the graduation announcement for graduations which I'd never travel 2000 miles to attend even if I were invited. They all seem like gift grabs to me as well.
Kris Butson said…
I'd just send a card - keep it simple!

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