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Wednesday, April 29, 2015

 Mr Duyvken and I received this card in the post on Monday. It is a very sweet card announcing a wedding. The only problem is that I am not sure how to respond, or even if I should respond.
It isn't an invitation and it isn't a save the date card, it seems to be just an fyi card. Is this an american practice? I think we'll put a card in the mail and hope that it's the right thing to do. Any other suggestions, dear Reader?
Zen pigeon is perplexed.


blackbird :

Are you sure it isn't an invitation?
Anyway, my boss sent me an announcement of his daughter's college graduation.
Not an invitation. An announcement.
I think it means I'm obligated to send a gift.
I'm not happy.

Duyvken :

No, not an invitation, it says that they are pleased to announce their marriage, gives the date (which is 1 month away) but no other details. Are we supposed to send a gift? I am so confused! :-)

Lynn :

That's a new one to this particular American!

Michelle :

It's american in that it's a gift grab. And it's american in that it's tacky before the wedding. "hey, we're getting married, send us a gift, but you're not invited"

I'd do whatever you want - send a card or gift, but don't feel obligated to do either.

I haven't yet received an announcement of a wedding before the wedding, but I've received a few afterwards, which I also find gift grabby, but it's got some social precedence at least.

Also have received the graduation announcement for graduations which I'd never travel 2000 miles to attend even if I were invited. They all seem like gift grabs to me as well.

Kris Butson :

I'd just send a card - keep it simple!

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